Seriously...I don't know why I look to the internet to answer my questions, especially if the answers I seek are regarding my kids' health. All it does is freak me out...EVERY TIME! I innocently google a symptom or a suspected ailment and it brings up something more serious and my mind instantly rushes to the worst case scenario. Just like tonight.
A little background info first:
J.J. has allergies. Cat (pretty severe), dog (mild), peanut (somewhere in between), dust mites (who doesn't, seriously?). He takes Zyrtec (generic) every night. So...given the last allergen, when he has a cold, we can't use the humidifier, because dust mites somehow find humidity a fun-fest in which to breed. Which means that I can't use the time-tested cough reducer of a nice blast of cool steam in the room (Side note...how on earth does cool steam exist, anyway? By pure physics, steam only exists when water boils--BOILS! So how does one achieve
cool mist? It's a mystery! Okay...on with my blogging).
This brings us to my current situation. J.J. has had a pretty yukky cough for a while now. It's pretty wet (not a dry, hacky cough) and sometimes he takes in this deep breath and it sounds like a honking goose. But that only happens once every one or two days. Usually it's just a cough. And
those only happen 4 or 5 times a day. It's not all the time.
I've asked the nurse at our doctor's office if there's anything I can give him, but due to all the new restrictions on pediatric cold medicine, there's not. So...we've just kinda let it run its course, hoping it would go away. Well, it hasn't. It's still there. I probably should have taken him to our pediatrician, but I didn't, simply because I didn't want to take him and them tell me it's just a cough. And I maybe should have taken him back to the allergist, but a little part of me is afraid to hear the word asthma come out of her mouth. I don't want J.J. to have a strike against him before he gets to the cruel world of school where they make fun of you if your hair does or doesn't stand up in the right place.
Enter my crazed websearch tonight. I was harmlessly reading some blogs on my Google Reader and I came across a way to look up local blogs. So I found some blogs from people that live around here and one woman was writing about her son and how he just got diagnosed with pneumonia! It kind of scared me a little bit, because some of his symptoms sounded a bit like what J.J. has been dealing with. So I googled the words "cough 3 year old" and it brought up a whole list of people's questions on message boards, with a couple actual websites regarding coughs. So I start reading. As J.J. would say, "Dis not a great idea, Mommy."
They started out pretty harmless...people asking what to do to help their child's coughing, followed by all sorts of advice from random medical website surfers (moms, well-meaning aunts, wanna-be doctors...you know the likes). Then one caught my eye. It gave a list of a lot of pretty typical coughs...what they sound like, the symptoms that come with them. A couple were pretty close to what J.J.'s sounds like, but none of them really hit it square on the head.
Then came the dreaded "Call your doctor if..." list. It started out pretty encouraging...it says that most childhood coughs are nothing to be worried about. But then it lists the scary symptoms. Things like "Has trouble breathing or works hard to breathe" or "has a blue or dusky color to the lips, face or tongue". Okay...so far, so good. We're still breathing...color still towards the red side of the ROY G. BIV scale. Then came the one that caught my attention: "Makes a 'whooping' sound when breathing in after coughing". Uh-oh.
My pulse immediately started to get faster...a wave of fear swept over me. Is that the sound J.J.'s making when he breathes in? Is it a whoop? Or more of a honk? What exactly does a 'whoop' sound like, anyway? I mean, I know there's a whooping crane, and I assume that's what a whoop is supposed to sound like, but having never actually met a whooping crane and asked it to talk, I don't know what the sound is.
So then I indulge my stupid irrational fear even more. I google "whooping cough sound" and guess what? It's searched for often enough that I didn't even have to finish typing it. Google kindly popped the drop-down menu for me and there it was, all ready for me to click on and scare myself. Which of course I did. I clicked on the first link and waited for the sound. And the sound it made sounded exactly like J.J.'s little breath that he takes in. Now my mind is flipping out even more.
So I go to another link and listen. Yep, same sound, different kid. My heart races. Does J.J. have whooping cough???? Have I been exposing countless kids and adults, including my own precious infant daughter (who by the way just got her 6-month round of dTap today, so isn't fully immunized towards pertussis--whooping cough--yet), to a very serious illness? J.J. has been in contact with dozens of people since his coughing started. Hundreds if you count the people we share air with when we go to Walmart and the likes!
I go to more sites. I go to www.pertussis.com. It fills my head with all this information about how hundreds of innocent little kids and babies die every year from pertussis. I read statistics and scary stories. I hear PSAs about it, complete with moms who have lost their babies due to pertussis. My mind has completely run away from me at this point. I even stop to pray for J.J. and Hadley, begging God not to let J.J. have whooping cough and for Hadley not to get it if he does. I'm almost in tears at this point.
Then something in the back of my mind tells me, "Heather, go back and look at the list of symptoms that go along with whooping cough." So I do. I go back to one of the many websites I've just poured over and find the symptoms. Here's what one website says:
"
The first symptoms of whooping cough are similar to those of a common cold: - runny nose
- sneezing
- mild cough
- low-grade fever
After about 1 to 2 weeks, the dry, irritating cough evolves into coughing spells. During a coughing spell, which can last for more than a minute, the child may turn red or purple. At the end of a spell, the child may make a characteristic whooping sound when breathing in or may vomit."
Okay...my heart calms down a bit. J.J. never had the runny nose or low-grade fever. He doesn't turn red or purple and he doesn't cough so hard that he gags himself. He does a couple coughs, makes a weird sound like a goose, coughs one or two more times and then he's fine. Yes, the sound he makes does sound very similar to the soundbytes I heard, but his coughing doesn't at all. Those poor kids sound like they might pass out in the middle of the coughing, they're coughing so hard. And there's always a gaggy sound at the end. J.J. doesn't do that at all.
So I calm down enough to go put Hadley to bed (she'd fallen asleep on my lap after her nightly bowl of rice cereal) and I go check on J.J. He's been asleep for almost 4 hours at this point, so I know I won't wake him up. I creep over to his bed, lean in and kiss him on the forehead. And of course, crazy, irrational nut that I am has to actually stick my ear on his back and see if I can hear anything out of the ordinary in his breathing. And I'm ashamed to admit that I actually contemplated getting his toy stethiscope out of his Fisher-Price doctor kit to try and get a better listen. Wow. There's something seriously wrong with me.
I've calmed down a bit now. But my mind has moved on to other things to be bothered about. Like the fact that I know J.J. is allergic to dust mites and yet I still don't vacuum his room every week or (and this will sound
insane) vacuum his mattress (hey...it's actually something you should do between sheet changings. It said so on a website...has to be true, right? Seriously, though, his allergy doctor did mention it).
So now I'm running through all the things that I don't do to keep the house clean enough for my son to live in it without his allergies being exacerbated and possibly making him continue to cough. I don't vacuum enough, I don't change his sheets often enough, I don't wash his pillow in super hot water, I don't (get this) freeze his stuffed animals for 6 hours to kill the dust mites living in them, I don't dust the house, let alone his room, often enough. I'm basically having a pretty low mom-esteem moment right now.
And I realize that it's almost 1 am (WHY AM I STILL UP?!?!?!?) and that I'm probably a bit irrational, and definitely can't do anything about it at this late hour...but I also know myself and I won't do anything about it tomorrow. Because somehow, somewhere in my head Saturdays are not for working in the house. Even if it needs it. Even if I didn't do my job during the week well enough to keep from
having the need to work on the house on Saturday. Doesn't matter. Saturdays are NOT work days.
Hopefully I'll reread this tomorrow (okay...later this morning) and it will inspire me to actually get something done tomorrow. Maybe. Maybe I should just go to bed. Yeah...that sounds like a wise plan.